Many years ago I went with the girl I was dating at the time to her parents’ house for Thanksgiving and a family reunion. My girlfriend’s whole family was there. She had brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, nieces and nephews all there laughing and having fun with everything for which to be thankful. I remember her grandmother and grandfather were sitting on the couch next to each other when somebody set the grandfather up with a loaded question.
“Gramps, if you had to do it all over again, would you marry Grandma again?” they asked with a smile.
Gramps didn’t blink.
“No” was his simple answer.
There was some uncomfortable laughter but it was quickly obvious that Gramps was not kidding.
“But, Gramps, I mean…you wouldn’t have all your kids and grandkids. Wouldn’t you do it over again, you know…” they asked encouragingly.
“No, I wouldn’t.”
“Well, why not?”
“Too hard.” said Gramps. “Too hard.”